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Leaders Open Doors

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When he heard his five year old son Ian say, “I got to be Class Leader today; I got to open doors for people!”, Bill Treasurer set to formulating his insights into the characteristics of a successful leader.

In his book “Leaders Open Doors: A Radically Simple Leadership Approach to Lift People, Profits, and Performance ” he contends that:

*  Effective leadership isn’t about having power over people, it’s about doing good for people

*  Leadership isn’t so much about the leader, rather it’s more so about those being led.

*  Leadership is about noticing, identifying, and creating opportunities for others.

*  Leadership is about opening doors for those being led.

Treasurer explains that an open-door leader opens six opportunity doors that represents ways that a leader can elevate standards and potentially change lives for the better. They affect. They amend. They alter.

  1. THE PROVING GROUND DOOR: Open-door leaders tap into our deep desire to excel and achieve when they give us opportunities to prove ourselves to ourselves. They give us a shot at performing at a higher level.
  2. THE THOUGHT-SHIFT DOOR: To keep us from being narrow or habitual in our thinking, Open-door leaders help shift our perspective so we can apply our imagination more fully.
  3. THE DOOR TO A SECOND CHANCE: Open-door leaders have a higher tolerance for mistakes, seeing them as great opportunities to learn and grow.
  4. OPENING DOORS FOR OTHERS: Open-door leaders intentionally go out of their way to reach the people who are least like themselves in order to ensure that everyone has a fair shot.
  5. THE DOOR TO PERSONAL TRANSFORMATION: The well-timed and good-intentioned feedback of an admired leader can change the entire trajectory of one’s career. Open-door leaders are often catalyst figures who bring about our own life and career transformations.
  6. THE DOOR TO YOUR OPEN HEART: Open-door leaders actively show that they care about us and our well-being. They reveal themselves to us, letting us see their own hardships, vulnerabilities, and human idiosyncrasies. In short, they are “real” with us.

Are we Open-door leaders? Can we lighten the leadership load and get back to what is most essential? Creating opportunities for those you are privileged to lead and being real with them.


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Let Them Be

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When we disagree with someone’s point of view, the appropriate response is not to argue with them or judge them.

Not only do they have a right to their opinion, they can’t actually help the way they see life.

Just like us, their unique conditioning causes them to see things exactly as they do.

Considering that we will always meet, interact and work with people from different backgrounds holding divergent perspectives, the best approach is to meet them all with loving kindness.


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From Tolerate to Celebrate

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Life would be boring if everyone was the same.

If someone has different ideas about a situation than we do, we cannot equate difference with wrongness. This came home to me powerfully last week after a particular interaction.

In his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey offers a rule that helps us deal with differences.

Level 1 – TOLERATE: To endure or put up with someone’s differences.

Level 2 – ACCEPT: To consent to someone’s differences; to regard them as proper, suitable, or normal.

Level 3 – VALUE: To be open and see someone’s differences as worthwhile.

Level 4 – CELEBRATE: To deeply understand another’s point of view, and to explain that point of view as well as or better than he or she could.

It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognise, accept and celebrate those differences.

Too often we arrive at the first landing – tolerate – and stop. We simply ‘put up with’ each other’s differences when we have a responsibility to keep climbing past acceptance, to levels where we value and celebrate one another.

Not wrong, just…Different.

 


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What a Wonderful World :-)

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I see trees of green, red roses, too,

I see them bloom, for me and you
And I think to myself What a wonderful world.

I see skies of blue, and clouds of white,
The bright blessed day, the dark sacred night
And I think to myself What a wonderful world.

The colors of the rainbow, so pretty in the sky,
Are also on the faces of people going by.
I see friends shaking hands, sayin’, “How do you do?”
They’re really sayin’, “I love you.”

I hear babies cryin’. I watch them grow.
They’ll learn much more than I’ll ever know
And I think to myself What a wonderful world
(The song What a Wonderful World by Louis Armstrong: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A3yCcXgbKrE)

Yes, I think to myself, What a wonderful world

 What a Wonderful World we live in.

Let us remember to keep it that way.

W.O.N.D.E.R.F.U.L.


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Mindful Listening

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Hunters wait for long stretches silently as they keep an ear open for the cry or call of a prey.

They listen to shifts in the wind, rustles in the foliage, warnings from other animals or even an inner voice that urges them to wait a little bit longer.

In  a similar way, each of us have to bring to work and to our interactions, our own version of attentiveness and practice varying degrees of concentration.

Do we pay heed to what we do? We tend to be distracted, more often than not.

Do we hold our listening focus for long stretches? We drift off into the future, ruminate about the past or simply tune off.

Do we practice mindful listening when one is talking? We sometimes give the appearance of being present in a conversation when, in fact, our mind is elsewhere.

Do we respond in defence or in reply after having listened to the other? We must be silent before we can listen.

Mindfulness encourages us to center on what is actually happening in the present and to be keenly aware of our inner responses to what is unfolding externally. (Diggins, 2011)

Whether at work or in a conversation, let us anchor ourselves to the present moment.

Let us practice mindfulness.

Mindful Listening.