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H.A.I.L. Happily :-)

The human voice is powerful enough to appease someone or start a war. It is an instrument we all play.

How can we speak powerfully so that others love to listen to us?

Julian Treasure in his Ted Talk: How to  Speak So That People Want to Listen:

https://www.ted.com/talks/julian_treasure_how_to_speak_so_that_people_want_to_listen?language=en

suggests there are seven habits that we need to move away from:

  1. Gossip – speaking ill of somebody who’s not present.
  2. Judging – to express unwanted opinions
  3. Negativity – it’s hard to listen to someone who is negative.
  4. Complaining – A “viral misery”, it does not spread sunshine and happiness
  5. Blame – not take responsibility for actions and pass it to everybody else.
  6. Exaggeration – it sometimes turns to lying and we don’t want to listen to people we know are lying to us.
  7. Dogmatism – the confusion of facts with opinions.

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So, how do we speak in ways that others would listen to us?

  • Be HONEST – being true in what we say, being straight and clear – speak the truth to respect their feelings but not to hurt their feelings
  • Be AUTHENTIC – by just being ourselves. “Standing in our own truth”
  • Display INTEGRITY – making our words count – doing what we say and being someone people can trust
  • Show LOVE – wishing everyone well – being nice and considerate.

Let us be people that will H.A.I.L. others Happily 🙂


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I am Grateful That Thorns Have Roses

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Being grateful has been proven to foster happiness, kindness, connection and increase resilience in the face of stressful life events.

Happiness, therefore, follows one main prescription: Gratitude.

Our disappointments, our resentments, our fears & our low points in life occupy a lot of our attention.

Gratitude does not come naturally to us. It has to be worked upon.

By making gratitude a habit, we can “begin to change the emotional tone of our lives, creating more space for joy and connection with others.”

1. THREE GOOD THINGS

The practice of counting our blessings involves spending 10 minutes at the end of each day writing in detail about three things that went well that day, large or small, and also describing why we think they happened. Completing this exercise every day for one week leads to increases in happiness that persisted for six months (Seligman, 2005)

2. LET US SAY: THANK YOU!

Gratitude can be especially powerful when it is expressed. It can be a thank you note – a small gesture of appreciation or a thoughtful, detailed Gratitude Letter. This is a great way to increase our feelings of gratitude and happiness while making the receiver feel valued.

However, no single activity is a panacea that can alter happiness set points after just one attempt. They have to be practiced regularly over time until they become a difficult-to-break habit.

Being Grateful not only helps us remember and appreciate the good things that happened in the past; it can also teach us to notice and savor positive events as they happen in the moment, and remember them more vividly later on. By reflecting on the sources of these good things, we begin to see a broader ecosystem of goodness around us.

Let Us Practice An Attitude of Gratitude Every Single Day.