In our daily lives, we are faced with innumerable challenges – personal and professional.
We as a team have had challenging days and weeks – preparation for meetings, completion of assessments, loss of a colleague and so on.
How do we deal with these challenges?
Do we perceive these challenges as major setbacks or moments of growth?
How do we stay balanced?
How well do we recover?
How do we learn to increase our R.E.S.I.L.I.E.N.C.E?
The World Happiness Report 2015 describes how well-being (happiness) is a skill and how it can be cultivated and trained by working on four areas: Positivity, Resilience, Generosity & Mindfulness.
Resilience can be explained as bounce-back-ability. The ability to get back up after adversity. The ability to look at crisis as an opportunity for self-reflection, learning and growing.
Is there an easy way to increase our Resilience? Apparently, there is.
And the answer is MINDFULNESS.
Resilience is mostly cultivated from within by how we perceive, and then, react to stressors.
A recent study found that mindful people can cope with difficult thoughts and emotions better without being overwhelmed or shutting down. Pausing and observing the mind helps one to move forward.
Carley Hauck of Stanford University suggests a mindful practice that can help improve our resilience.
- “Come into a comfortable and supported seated posture.
- Begin to bring your awareness inside and slow down the rhythm of your breathing.
- Acknowledge any event that happened today or this week that was difficult.
- Bring your awareness to what happened, thoughts, feelings, and let your heart begin to open as you breathe in and out.
- Turn towards the moderate difficulty with compassion and acceptance.
- Repeat these phrases in whatever order or frequency that feels comfortable to you.
May I be kind to myself.
May I find peace and healing.
I am doing the best that I can in this moment.
May I accept and find ease with things just as they are.”
Often, when life is difficult, we can be overly critical and hard on ourselves, but compassion, not criticism, facilitates greater resilience.
With compassion, we can turn toward the difficult thoughts and emotions and then get back on track with our next wise move.